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Sharon Van Etten

Sharon Van Etten

Interviewed by
Danielle Street
Thursday 5th March, 2015 1:21PM

Last year Brooklyn-based musician Sharon Van Etten unveiled her incredible fourth album Are We There, a record that was punctuated by the goose-bump inducing single 'Your Love Is Killing Me'. The track, in which Van Etten lyrically wears her heart on her sleeve, describes a time in her life when she fell down the rabbithole of an ultimately destructive relationship while trying to establish her musical career. As a whole, the beautifully constructed and dark record marks a high point in a successful struggle for the New Jersey native, who has worked extremely hard to get where she is.

The 34-year-old initially started writing music on the sly while working in hospitality and living with a partner who was verbally unsupportive of her passion. After six year she left the abusive relationship and moved back home, where she plucked up the nerve to pursue a full-time music career. She eventually returned to Brooklyn and hustled her music, gaining the encouragement of Kyp Malone (TV On The Radio), and working up to releasing her debut album Because I Was In Love in 2009,  a release that gained positive critical attention and set her on her current path. With her impending visit to New Zealand next week, UnderTheRadar caught up with Sharon to talk about her new album, horoscopes, healthy cooking and unhealthy relationships...

Hi Sharon, how are you?

Iím good, how are you doing?

Iím good, the weather here is pretty warm here.

Oh, lucky! Itís disgusting here today.

Are you at home in New York at the moment?

Yeah, itís pretty bad.


It was raining earlier, then sleeting, then freezing rain, and then snowing. And it will probably turn into ice overnight.

What do you do on days like that, do you hibernate and write?

Oh I am cooking chicken.

I was just looking through your Tumblr page and you seem to be quite the chefÖ

Iím learning. I'm learning how to get in the habit of cooking. Iím not great but I like learning how to do things.

Itís something new that youíve taken onboard?

Well, growing up I was more into baking, but now that Iím an adult and canít eat cake for every meal of the day Iím trying to learn how to cook healthier and wholesome things.

I like your Tumblr page, itís nice to have that insight into a musicianís life. Itís a nice way of feeling connectedÖ

Oh thanks, yeah itís fun to do. I always have to figure out what Iím going to put up for the day. I try to do something once a day.

I was also reading something from an interview with you last year, and you talked a bit about your interest in horoscopesÖ so do you read your horoscope everyday as well?

Haha, I donít read it every day but I check in to see if anything has been vaguely accurate. My little sister got me into it, and itís the one way we connect because we are kind of opposites, so we laugh at what it usually says about us. But I actually havenít been keeping up with it lately, itís probably been a few months since Iíve looked, thatís unlike me.

Youíre a pisces right? Youíve got your birthday coming up soonÖ

Yeah! I think I'm going to have in Australia when Iím there. Right before I head over to New Zealand.

Do you align yourself with many of the attributes of a pisces?

Yes, I think itís accurate [laughs]. Iím kind of spacey, like my head is in the clouds, Iíve always been a daydreamer. Iíve always been into some kind of creative form and like Iím a very emotional person. Iím more of an introvert than an extrovert, and more of a listener than a talker.

It sounds like your creativity started when you were younger, you grew up in a musical environment and sang in the choir. When did you realise music was something you wanted to take seriously?

Not until my adult life really. I never thought it could be a career, basically. I always had fun doing it, but I thought I should probably have a back up plan, my parents kind of ingrained that in me as a child, which is what a parent should do. So it wasnít until my early 20s when I thought ďI should just try thisĒ.

And you worked as a music publicist for Ba Da Bing for awhile, what did being on that side of the coin teach you about the industry. What did you take away from that experience?

I was so lucky that I got to work at Ba Da Bing. I reconnected with an old friend of mine who was the assistant to Ben Goldberg [label founder], and they hired me as an intern to start. I was working at a wine store at the time, not really knowing much about the scene in New York or what went into putting out a record, I was pretty green to say the least. I excited to learn from a smaller label point-of-view, it was pretty much being run out of Benís apartment and we were sitting in his living room working together on things like The Dead C reissues, records that people donít put out unless they are really passionate about it, you know, because youíve got to work really hard to put out something, itís just hard to get people to respond to it, so you have to care about it. And I was very lucky to see it from that side, because that doesnít happen with every label.

So do you think it set you in good stead as a musician to align yourselves with labels who do care?

Yeah, Iíve been lucky that everyone that Iíve worked with Iíve been friends with, and we have grown a lot together. And I know it sounds kind of dreamy and overly optimistic but I really lucked out.

Your new album Are We There is just so striking and I wanted to ask you about the single ĎYour Love Is Killing Meí, the lyrics are so incredibly vivid. Can you tell me a little bit about what that song is about?

Well, I started writing that song when I was going through a hard time in my relationship, and my career was being challenged because of how difficult it was to maintain a healthy relationship while touring all the time. I didnít realise it then, but I was very frustrated about not knowing how to deal with this really unhealthy world I was living in, and how to have my career plus be a good partner. I was in a state of limbo. And I started writing it before I went on tour on March-April 2013 with my drummer in support of Nick Cave, and we started developing that song on that tour. It might be obvious, but Nick Cave was a huge influence on that song during the writing process.

Because itís so close to your heart, do you find it difficult to perform live?

Yes, absolutely. It doesnít happen all the time, but Iíve definitely had shows where Iíll cry during the song, and Iíll be absolutely shaken. Iím usually pretty strong but these are real things that happened to me, and I donít really sugarcoat that. If I didnít feel the songs I probably wouldnít perform them but it can get pretty emotional sometimes and I need a break.

The video for the song, which follows this captivating Geena Davis-like woman, has such a simple yet emotive concept. Where did that come from?

Sean Durkin, who directed the video, he and I have been trying to work together for years now but our schedules have been so insane that it didnít work out. But we became friends over the years because we are fans of each other and we kept checking in. And he heard that song, and from the beginning he was like ďthatís the song I want to do something forĒ. His style is so dark naturally he gravitated towards it. And when we finally got to meet we talked about that song and what it meant, and I basically told him what I told you about the song, and the part which I didnít really talk about is that when you are in an unhealthy relationship itís still real and itís still beautiful and itís still a struggle, and just because itís unhealthy doesn't mean that it was wrong or that you shouldnít have tried. The struggle is maintaining that balance, so learning when to let go and when itís not good for you anymore. So, I trusted him from there, knowing that he understood the song. And then he told me that he met this actress Carla Juri, who was just in a movie called Wetlands, which is a really incredible film. Her facial expressions just say so much. I feel that sometimes there is an emotion and you canít put a story to it, and we werenít going to try and create a story around this song, but we wanted to evoke an emotion. And Sean and Carla just took it and ran away with it.

I think it was very successful in that goal of creating emotion, itís so well done. And in other projects you recently previewed new single ĎI Donít To Let You Downí on Ellen recently, are you an Ellen fan?

Yes! I think she is hilarious and beautiful and a really kind person. I think sheís a positive role model for people everywhere, specifically women, but anyone.

Is the song from an upcoming release?

Well, we are doing a 7-inch, and we are also working on an EP and trying to get that out but I donít know when yet. It actually hasnít been announced yet, but hey.

Watch the incredible video for 'Your Love Is Killing Me'...

Sharon Van Etten is playing four New Zealand shows starting with a performance on Thursday 12th March at Kings Arms Tavern in Auckland, head over here for full dates, details and to buy tickets.

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related gigs
Thu 12th Mar
Kings Arms Tavern, Auckland
Fri 13th Mar
Bodega, Wellington
Sat 14th Mar
Wunderbar, Lyttelton
Sun 15th Mar
Chicks Hotel , Port Chalmers

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